friendship. "Is Hooking Up Bad For Young Women?". 43 Evolutionary psychology suggests that "women are the choosier of the genders" since "reproduction is a much larger investment for women" who have "more to lose by making bad choices." 46 All of these are examples of gender stereotypes which plague dating discourse and shape. 80 Speed dating has come to Shanghai and other cities. 140 She wondered why it was acceptable to juggle "10 potential partners" while weighing different attributes; she found American-style dating to be "exhausting and strange." 140 She found dating in America to be "organized in a fairly formal fashion" with men approaching women and asking. 95 Sometimes the bride and groom don't meet until the wedding, and there is no courtship or wooing before the joining.